Harnessing Peace: Mastering Life Tolerations

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Hey there and welcome. Are you a woman who is unapologetically ambitious, but you're also deeply focused on honoring God, loving your family well and pursuing meaningful work? Well, you've come to the right place. My name is Dana Byers and you and I are going to be fast friends. Let's get started.

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Hello. Hello friends. Welcome back to another episode of Been There, learned That This is Dana. I'm so glad you're back here and I want to start with a little bit of celebration in today's episode. I love statistics, I love numbers. If you don't, just hold on. But I want to start with some stats. So I learned recently some 2024 podcast statistics from podcast page and they put out that out of the 4.3 million podcasts around the globe, only 44% of those get past three episodes. Right now, what I'm recording is episode 10. So a much smaller percentage of those podcasts actually get past 10 episodes. And of the podcasts that record 10 episodes or more, only 22% of those are bringing consistent weekly episodes. So I, I'm celebrating today. I just happened to run across those numbers before I sat down to record and I thought, okay, this is pretty cool.

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You and I we're meeting here every week. We're getting in touch regularly. I am seeing some of you sign up for my email list. I'm getting to coach some of you now because you found me through a podcast. I mean, how fun is this? So there's my moment of celebration. Thank you Jesus, for podcasting and all these new friends I am making. Alright, today I've got a quick little episode that's going to teach you a wonderful life coaching tool, and this tool is so beautiful. I didn't create it. A lot of us who are coaches use it though I couldn't even tell you where it originated. We've been using it in a variety of settings. However, this tool is very simple, but it can be very powerful if you'll let it be. Okay. It's called Life Tolerations. I've created a printout for you that you can get for free.

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If you'd like to use that, go to dana byers coaching.com/tolerations. I'll put a link to that in the show notes. If you're on my email list, you already have an email in your inbox today that allows you to get that download. You are welcome. All right, so life tolerations, this is a coaching tool. If you need to do it immediately, just get out a piece of paper and start writing it down. Please don't do that if you're driving or cooking dinner, but otherwise, you're going to be able to utilize this tool very soon. Okay, so let me ask you, what are you allowing to clutter your mind? There are things that clutter our minds all the time, and that's not a problem. That's part of the human existence. The problem comes when we let our brains run the show. I once heard a coach say that our brains are like toddlers with knives.

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And that example has really stuck with me. We don't want toddlers running around with knives. They can do a lot of damage. And the thing is, toddlers are also wonderful if we appropriately help them navigate life. Well, same with our brain. You are in charge of your brain. It's meant to serve you. It's trying to help you, but if you allow it to get cluttered, it is not going to function the way that you want it to. So the responsibility is on you. But that's actually a good thing because that means you can control that sense of feeling overwhelmed to some degree. You can control it. So I asked you, what are you allowing to clutter your mind? These tasks or these circumstances, these things, whether they're large or small, they're going to slow down your ability to be present. They're going to drain your mental and your emotional energy.

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So on this life tolerations list, which again, you can get at Dana by coaching.com/tolerations on this life tolerations list, which is a coaching tool, you're going to write down anything that comes to your mind. I mean, I don't care if it's fixing the backyard fence or getting gas in your car or getting on the wait list for preschool for your child. I want you to write all the tasks, the decisions that you need to make the ineffective procedures that you're experiencing that bring you consistent frustration, the projects in your life that have been delayed, that untidy closet at the back of the house, those unanswered emails that you keep snoozing, that you're avoiding, responding to bills you need to pay, unmet expectations, difficult conversations you need to have and more. Now, I know some of you, just by hearing that list I've shared, you might feel your anxiety go up a little bit. That's not my intent. But we experience and contribute to some of our anxiety by not managing our minds. And one way you can manage your mind is to write these things out. It lets your brain know that you are listening. So whether it's something that's involved in your personal life or your work life, when you get them out of your brain and you do this brain dump onto your life.